Women’s Biggest Mistakes On First Dates
Topic: Relationships
Author: Joann Cohen (Click on authors name for bio)
Posted: Thursday, September 29th 2011
So, you thought the date went great? You seemed to have a real connection, or so you thought, but he never called you again, what gives? There could be many reasons why he didn’t call, but most likely, you did something that he didn’t like or appreciate. So, what might it have been? As a Relationship Consultant, I constantly hear from men their biggest complaints about what women do wrong on first dates. Here are a few things that women should avoid on a first date, especially if they hope to get a second date.
Don’t be late: Over 50% of women admit that they have showed up late for a first date. Some women actually believe that being tardy is fashionable and a typical way for a woman to behave. The truth is that showing up late is a clear message to the guy that he wasn’t worth it to be on time.
Don’t talk or text on your cell: Unless your grandmother has fallen down the stairs and needs immediate medical attention, do not take a personal call during your date. The same applies to texting, as taking out your phone and typing away during your date is akin to reaching over and slapping him in the face.
Don’t be rude: In general, men do appreciate a challenge, but they still don’t want a girl who is mean. Don’t be snotty with the waiter or rude with the bartender. Don’t engage in petty activities like mocking the outfit, appearance or behavior of another patron in the establishment. Stay above it all and maintain your self-respect.
Don’t mention future contact too soon: This is one of the tougher rules to follow. You could be discussing a book or a new restaurant in town, and casually mention that you should go to the restaurant together sometime or that you could loan him your copy of a certain book. The problem with that is that you are forcing him to make a snap decision on whether he may want to see you again before he even knows you. Leave the talk of a second meeting until later.
Don’t appear emotionally unstable: This one is fairly easy to follow, or at least it should be. He is your date, not your therapist. He doesn’t want to hear about the stressed relationship you have with your sister, or the fight you are having with a co-worker. If there are issues that you absolutely must vent about, then by all means seek out a therapist, but do so before you think about any serious dating.
Don’t be too quiet, or too overbearing: There is a happy medium here, and it is easy to find if you just involve yourself in the flow of the conversation. If he asks you questions about yourself, don’t give simple one word answers. Guys are not interested in someone who is overly timid. Conversely, don’t answer every question with a 10 minute speech about your childhood.
None of these are all that hard to follow, and most likely how you want the man to treat you too. So sticking to these rules will do a lot to get that second date!
Nicely done, I agree & follow these rules, specifically the cell phone bit. I think that is a common courtesy whether on a date or spending time with anyone.
Thanks for the concrete list, to refer to.
Jelcy